Compersion is a word coined for the polyamorous lifestyle meaning to find happiness when your partner is happy or experiencing joy rather than feeling jealous about it. It is indeed a choice. Jealousy does not just go away on its own, as it was taught to us in society, but we can make a choice to deal with the roots of our jealousy and choose compersion instead.
2 Responses to “Jealousy vs. Compersion (Podcast)”
Is it possible to be in love with someone in a poly relationship and not have the sex. Sex seems to complicate matters; and while I do like it, I feel more vulnerable putting myself out sexually.
I can feel the happiness of my friends when they have just found a new love, just as I can grieve for them when they have loss. Jealousy is a nasty beast I try to keep out of my life on all counts. I do however like the concept of Compersion, being with someone that close that you feel their joys and smile when they smile; that should bring nothing but happiness.
Yes. Totally possible to be in love without sex. And, agreed, sex complicates things. especially if engaged in too soon. It can create a false sense of intimacy.
Episode 38: Jealousy vs. Compersion (Podcast).
Is it possible to be in love with someone in a poly relationship and not have the sex. Sex seems to complicate matters; and while I do like it, I feel more vulnerable putting myself out sexually.
I can feel the happiness of my friends when they have just found a new love, just as I can grieve for them when they have loss. Jealousy is a nasty beast I try to keep out of my life on all counts. I do however like the concept of Compersion, being with someone that close that you feel their joys and smile when they smile; that should bring nothing but happiness.
BIG HUGS to you
Clint
Hugs back.
Yes. Totally possible to be in love without sex. And, agreed, sex complicates things. especially if engaged in too soon. It can create a false sense of intimacy.
Compersion is certainly what I strive towards.
Peace.