Today is the 100th International Women’s Day, a day when the earth celebrates women and their social, political, and economic achievements. Events recognizing women are taking place all over the world. Annie Lennox tweeted from an event in the UK. Women gathered in Turkey, the Ukraine, and in 70 other countries. Daniel Craig dressed in drag. Ironically (or perhaps stereotypically) there are no events in Texas.
Yesterday, Charlie Sheen tweeted this:
It has been retweeted over 3,000 times. On International Women’s Day.
This statement is not funny; it is hateful. It is offensive. It shows a total disregard and disrespect for women. It comes from a sick man who is going through some drastic life changes. Unfortunately, it’s bringing out the worst in him. Many people are finding it entertaining, but ultimately their attention is just rewarding his misogyny. And that’s what this shows: a hatred of women.
There is nothing funny or entertaining about misogyny.
Misogynists aren’t always very easy to spot because on the surface they trumpet how much they love and respect women, and often times women find out too late, perhaps after they are already in love or attached in some other way. Then she is more likely to overlook the signs of the misogynist.
For the sake of your own heart and sanity, please don’t overlook the signs. Get out and get away.
Some symptoms, taken from experience:
If a man, when complaining about some apparent wrong doing, uses the phrase “cry rape,” he is likely a misogynist. If when seeing a questionable driver says, “it must be a woman,” or comments on the attitude or temperament of a woman and says, “it must be that time of the month,” he is likely a misogynist. If he refers to a thin woman as a “spinner” or makes jokes about “rufies,” he is likely a misogynist.
A man who cheats on his wife, lies and deceives, is likely a misogynist. And, yes, suggestively flirting on the internet with other women is cheating.
When woven in conversation, these phrases can seem rather innocuous (although they never seem so to me), but they are very clear signs of a deep disrespect and possibly a hatred for women. #dealwithit
Misogynists are often handsome and charming and witty. They talk about how much they love women. They openly advertise that they have an inherent respect for women. They themselves may not even realize their own misogyny (in their mind they love women), but it is quite clear in their words and actions. These types of comments show a deep-seated hatred.
Using terms like “skull fucking” to describe an intimate act is quite misogynistic. It’s not witty. It’s not funny. It’s hateful and offensive.
Threatening a woman with abandonment while seducing her is highly misogynistic. Telling her things like “if anyone finds out about this, you’ll never see me again” while you are both naked and vulnerable is seriously abusive.
If when discussing your relationship he says something like “This is not just about sex. There are 30 women I could call right now who will fuck me,” he is likely a misogynist. These kind of men ultimately view women as objects–sperm receptacles to be tossed aside when full. And tossed aside you’ll be.
These are the words and actions of a man who is not only a misogynist, but is also a Narcissist.
Run. Very, very fast.
Today is International Women’s Day. Let’s celebrate it by taking a stand against misogyny.
Don’t retweet (RT) Charlie Sheen’s filth.
Don’t allow a man to use and discard you.
Don’t give yourself, heart and body, to a man who says or does things like the above examples.
Stand up for your inherent self worth. If you hear a misogynistic comment, call them out on it. I admit that I normally don’t do this. I never laugh, but I just remain quiet.
From this point forward I vow to call out misogyny when I see it. I hope you will join me.
Let’s stop rewarding misogyny.
What are some other examples of misogynistic signs to watch out for?