Never Say Never

Two years ago I posted this image on my OMGrey Facebook with the words “Never Again.” Someone commented “then he wins,” and it really pissed me off. It angered me so much that I wrote a blog post about it. Yesterday, I reread that blog post entitled “Then He Wins,” and I still agree with most of it, even though I was in a place of anger at that time. That’s a damaging thing to say to a survivor. Most of my rant holds true, except…

I’m no longer in the “Never Again” space.

Here I am two years later. My heart and desire have been reawakened. I am ready and willing to open up my soul to someone special again. I want to share my thoughts, fears, future, hopes, and dreams. I want to let someone into my soul.

What’s more, I want to hear his thoughts, fears, future, hopes, and dreams. I want to see his soul. I want to be in his heart the way he’s in mine.

So… I guess never say never!

Yay me.

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Still, for the record, you don’t say shit like “then he wins” to a survivor while they’re recovering. You don’t even say “never say never” or anything remotely similar. When someone is in pain–when they’re grieving–you absolutely do not spout platitudes or cult of positivity bullshit.

You sympathize (or empathize). You validate. You understand. You support.   /lecture

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UPDATE – 8/4/16. Since the man in question turned out to be a cruel sociopath, I went back to feeling disgusted by sex and even less trusting of myself and others than before. Seems if I’m drawn to someone it’s a good indication they’re a narcissist or sociopath. I’m quite better alone.

~ by omgrey on March 16, 2016.